• Sociologist Alicia Walker researched why women cheat on their husbands.
  • She found out that the clichés about what women look for in lovers is not necessarily true.
  • Women told her that they often cheat to stay married to husbands they loved, not to leave them.

If you ask someone the worst thing their partner could do to them, most of them would probably say “cheating.”

Finding out your spouse has been unfaithful is heartbreaking, devastating, and can ruin someone’s self-esteem.

When Alicia Walker, a sociologist and researcher at Missouri State University set out to look into why women cheat on their husbands, she expected to find results in tune with what people often assume about them. For example, people tend to talk about how infidelity happens when women want to seek out emotional support, or they fall in love with someone else.

However, as laid out in her book “The Secret Life of the Cheating Wife: Power, Pragmatism, and Pleasure in Women’s Infidelity,” her findings were anything but cliché. She talked to 46 women in total, through the adult dating website Ashley Madison, and none of them were looking for anything other than physical connections.

They weren’t looking for anyone to support them emotionally — they just wanted men who were sexually compatible.

“They were very practical and methodical in their decision making and then their vetting of who they were going to get involved with,” Walker told Business Insider. “And they were very clear it had nothing to do with whether or not he was a nice guy … So none of the sentimentality that we seem to want to assign women. They talked a lot about how participating in this was sort of this exercise of power and freedom for them.”

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