Body-shaming men is deeply unprogressive — even if they’re accused of sex crimes.
“That’s just not a good move,” my father snickered. “I mean, maybe if you’re Ryan Gosling. But that is not a good look for Charlie Rose.”
It was only a matter of time, I figured, before one of the recent sexual abuse allegations would come up during a recent visit home. My father chose to focus on the Charlie Rose “trick” of surprising women who were working at his home by emerging from the shower, semi-naked.
My father’s tactic represents a common one for people who want to criticize Rose and the other sexual predators filling our newsfeeds right now: He took a shot at Rose’s physical attractiveness, or lack thereof.
I can’t lie; it’s been vengefully satisfying to see powerful men like Harvey Weinstein, Louis C.K., Matt Lauer, Kevin Spacey, and Rose fall from grace over the past several months. Hearing victims speak out about these men’s aggression, manipulations, and perversion of power — and hearing others who wield comparable power openly criticize them on national stages (what’s up, John Oliver!) — gives me hope that things are changing.
People are finally holding some of these men, as well as the deeply embedded patriarchy that supports them, accountable. What’s not as heartening or progressive is the discourse surrounding that accountability. In October, Samantha Bee came out swinging in a video addressed to Harvey Weinstein, insisting, “Your dick is ugly” — and it was hard not to hear a broader judgment about the producer’s appearance. Many others went further. Howard Stern called Weinstein a “big fat guy,” adding, “There is no girl on the planet that wants to see Harvey Weinstein naked and is going to get aroused.” About Rose, Seth Meyers said in on Read More Here