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  • There are many misconceptions about why women choose to cheat on their partners.
  • New research shows women can have a very pragmatic approach to sexual infidelity, and often their husbands never find out.
  • Here are five myths about cheating that we often assume to be true.

There are many clichés about cheating. It’s often assumed that a man will cheat when he isn’t being sexually satisfied, while a woman will stray if her emotional needs aren’t being met.

But this could all be wrong, according to new research by Alicia Walker, a sociologist at Missouri State University.

For her new book “The Secret Life of the Cheating Wife: Power, Pragmatism, and Pleasure in Women’s Infidelity,” Walker spoke to 46 women using Ashley Madison — the dating website for people who are married or in a relationship and are looking for a “discreet encounter.”

Going in, Walker had preconceptions about what she would find, based mostly on the conversations we tend to have about cheating. Instead, she was surprised to find out a lot of what we assume isn’t actually true.

These are the five biggest myths Walker debunked about female infidelity:

MYTH 1: Women cheat because they want to get out of their marriage

Nearly every woman Walker spoke to was cheating because they loved their husband and wanted to stay married. She said that as they weren’t getting what they needed from their husbands, they had to look elsewhere. This didn’t mean they wanted out of the marriage, they simply wanted to “outsource” their sexual needs.

“Unlike what we think about women, the reality is that the women I spoke to are cheating to stay married,” Walker told Business Insider. “They’re not cheating for revenge, or to get out of a marriage, or get the husband to notice them through Read More Here